May the holiday season be filled with light, beauty and warmth, and should be spent with loved ones. However, one of the worst things that can happen during this time is getting into a big argument with your family and friends. Unfortunately, it happens all the time.
And the trigger for a family fight can be something as small as an invitation to a Christmas party. Or rather, the lack of one, as redditor u/Lukeproblem135 says He shared in his viral post. on the AITA subreddit. She explained how her husband felt insulted that her parents did not send him a separate invitation to the Christmas party.
The situation became so dire that the woman turned to Reddit for some advice on who was at fault and what she could do next. You’ll find the full story below. What do you think about what happened, pandas? How would you solve this problem? Share your thoughts in the comments.
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Even small, seemingly trivial details can escalate into major family arguments.
Image credit: Taimur Weber (not original photo)
A woman said that her husband was angry that her in-laws did not send her a separate invitation to the Christmas party.
Image credit: Julia Larson (not the original photo)
He explained that the feast was not physical. It was sent via text message.
The situation escalated after the woman’s parents had enough.
Image credit: Problem 135
The author of the post, redditor u/Lukeproblem135, shared a little update after his post went viral. She explained that her parents eventually cut the two off after the argument escalated.
Further, he emphasized the fact that the invitation to the party was sent via text message. Her husband, Luke, wanted separate texts from his parents. According to the OP, he didn’t want to be seen as an extension of his wife. However, all this rivalry between her and her in-laws led to something neither wanted: holidaying separately.
Most arguments and disagreements between people are caused by a lack of clear boundaries. For example, a person may be too timid to set boundaries for what is and is not acceptable behavior. On the other hand, the other person may not be aware of the fact that they are invading one’s personal space. Or they are so used to dominating any and all conversations and interactions that their go-to is to establish their presence.
Whatever the truth (and a lot really depends on each individual’s situation), there’s nothing like a healthy dollop of honest but friendly communication to settle the score. No one is a mind reader. Even your in-laws may or may not agree. You can’t expect someone to automatically know how their behavior might bother you. Especially if you’re good at being polite, or at least pretending to be.
Don’t forget that despite the age difference, everyone is an adult in these situations. A quick word about how you would appreciate it if they don’t talk to you a certain way or avoid doing something can save you from a storm of drama in the future. And it beats being passive-aggressive with your in-laws for years, until everything culminates in one big argument for ages.
It’s much better to have a short but completely awkward conversation and move on with your life. Who knows, you might even become friends.
Another piece of advice you may want to consider is getting on the same page as your partner in terms of your in-laws. You have to play as a team, otherwise, your relationship may suffer.
“A united front makes a huge difference. You don’t want to be in your in-laws’ crosshairs and find things flying with your spouse. If you and your spouse are on the same page, you’re in-laws. You can take the path of least resistance with those and just politely smile and say ‘Sure,’ but then act in a way that you and your spouse see fit for you. Relationships,” Dr. Ramani Durasola, a psychologist who specializes in relationships, told NBC News.
And if all else fails, and you feel like the holiday season is just falling apart, consider giving your in-laws some compliments.
“Complimenting someone is like defusing a b*mb, or at least changing the thermostat. It may sound ridiculous, but anyone can find something nice to say about someone. Even That if the in-laws are gunning for a fight, you can cut those strings,” explained Dr Durvasola.
This is how the internet reacted to this woman’s story. People were very honest about how they felt.
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