Parties are an integral part of human culture and social life and are as essential to living a healthy life as getting a good reputation, exercising, and cutting out toxic people in life. Sure, you can live with or without it, but the upside cannot be reduced.
so, Not being invited to a party, if the opposing party was actually invited to an equivalent party, and in fact was the reason for it all in the first place.There’s word of mouth for sure, but there’s also a sucking situation.
And of course, Redditors found such a problem to decide in a recent r/AITA post.
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Not being invited to a party is useless, but not being invited to a party that is the result of your party is much more useless.
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The story is that the OP hosts annual Christmas parties that are quite large (Like hundreds of people with catering large). They’ve been doing it for a decade now, so you know it’s a serious tradition.
One year, OP invited Tara and her ex-partner this friend named Tony. In a nice twist, the two hit it off nicely and two years later, at their next holiday party, they announced their engagement. Needless to say, the OP was very happy for them.
A Redditor recently needed some perspective on the couple’s decision not to be invited to their party after not receiving an invitation to their wedding.
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But, in a very nice way, the OP was not invited to the wedding. Now, you can’t blame the OP for having an expectation, even a slight one, that they might be invited to a wedding of people who wouldn’t know each other if they weren’t at the party. must have met, and even used their party as a platform to announce their engagement. If anything, they were good friends, so not being invited felt awkward.
So, in return, the OP thought he might stop inviting them both to his annual Christmas party. And the boy outgrew it. The couple came back to them and said they were very upset not to be invited. Turns out, they think the OP’s party is special, and not being invited seemed trivial because they weren’t invited.
Although a wedding may seem more personal than a Christmas party to hundreds of people, the important thing here is that the couple met each other at the party.Courtesy OP
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What made it worse was that a couple’s mutual friends sided with the married couple, pointing out that the OP was punishing them. And besides, “it was a small wedding.” The OP disagreed with that last point because there were about 200 people invited, at least 50 of whom were acquaintances. To top it all off, OP’s co-worker also supported the couple.
Taking all of this into consideration, the OP decided to skip the question and get to the bottom of it. Am I an A-hole? Community on Reddit. And they ruled that there was nothing wrong with the OP inviting her friends back this year.
Across the board, people said what the host did was not wrong — it was their party
The NTAs in the comment section justified the OP’s decision by saying first and foremost that it’s their party, and therefore they decide who’s in and who’s out. But beyond the basics, a commenter Speculations that the conflict may have occurred because the OP’s party, after becoming a tradition, subconsciously looked like an “official organizer and community event” so it didn’t feel as personal as a wedding. And weddings are always carefully crafted when it comes to guest lists.
If anything, most people got the feeling that the couple didn’t value the OP’s friendship and efforts as much as the other side. Especially considering that the couple didn’t really explain their reasoning, the NTA seemed even more motivated.
People also asked for more information in the comments, such as if the couple explained why they didn’t invite the OP to the wedding, how big the party usually is, details about whether they knew the OP (they were ) had introduced and thus. In fact, the OP was quite active in the comments.
Speaking of comments, you can read it all in context. Here. But don’t forget to leave a comment in the comment section below and play the judging game!
Oh, and if you want more party and/or drama articles, you’re welcome, you’re welcome, you’re welcome, and you’re welcome.
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