I believe most parents and teachers want their children to succeed. And while we try to equip them with the best tools and information for their future lives, there are things we’re teaching that are actually setting them up for failure. Whether by accident or due to a lack of self-awareness and knowledge, we teach them these ‘lessons’ that when implemented do more harm than good.
A Reddit User But wanted to get more feedback. Why do we need to stop teaching children?, so they asked other users to share their thoughts. And they had some really insightful answers. People called out the toxic ideas that many people are still putting into the young and impressionable minds of children, often without giving it a second thought. Society is evolving, and many ideas are already considered outdated and harmful, yet they still resonate when it comes to lecturing children.
More than 16,000 responses later, KristenBellTattoos.com Picked the most eye-opening answers that we should immediately stop telling kids. There are many ‘facts’ that are rarely challenged, so we must not forget that even if we have made a mistake, there is no shame in admitting it and correcting it. Scroll down and vote for your favorite answers, share your thoughts, and if you think of something that isn’t on this list, please let us know in the comments below!
Just to ignore the bullies. As a former teacher, this does nothing to solve the problem. Bullying continues 100% of the time.
This failure is something to be ashamed of and to be avoided at all costs. We all fail sometimes and we need to be able to accept that.
I do not believe in forced forgiveness. They are not legitimate excuses and the other child knows it. I also don’t think adults should force children to accept forgiveness. There is no point in forcing an apology and accepting it.
I am a third grade teacher. My students know that I will not force an apology. Instead, I talk to students about their choices and how they make others feel. I have found that, once students realize what they did, they themselves apologize and the other student accepts it because they know the apology is sincere. Often times, students try to solve the problem on their own. It is common for students to ask me if they can speak alone in the hallway. Then they return proudly saying that they have solved their problem.
Obviously, if something isn’t resolving itself, I will continue to help students through it. I will also step in for more important differences. However, I have found that students are often able to solve problems. However, they are never truly resolved by the acceptance of forced forgiveness and forced forgiveness because the underlying problem remains.
That ugly = bad/evil. I partly blame TV animation for that. This often scares children away from older people and creates an unfair correlation between appearance and personality.
“Please” is not a magic word. It often won’t get you what you want.
“I’m sorry” does not erase a mistake and is only a small part of an apology, which the wronged party is not bound to accept.
Acceptance of collective punishment. Whoever does something that gets him into trouble gets punished.
Too many teachers do this to children and it only creates resentment for both the teacher and the child, which keeps the whole class in trouble.
I don’t want my kids to be ready to accept it as adults, and just deal with it from the government, society, their employers, etc.
If you are good you can get anything you want.
It teaches children how to be manipulative and dishonest.
Instead, teach them to handle “no.”
A lot of people grow up and resent being told “no.”
Teachers and parents want their kids to learn how to ask for things politely — but not how to say no.
My brother teaches kids and he will actively tell kids “no” and encourage them to find alternative solutions that don’t violate anyone’s judgment.
Children learn by watching us. Everything we want kids to do or not do, starts with the adults’ own hang-ups. Full stop
As a teacher, I’m always happy with what people think we teach kids. “Stop teaching______!”
You know what I spent a significant amount of time teaching this year? That dirty toilet paper goes in the toilet. That you can control how hard you hit. That you have to charge the laptop computer for more than a minute to fill the battery.
Then you get, “Why don’t schools teach kids how to do taxes?” Yes, kids love taxes. We couldn’t get the middle schoolers to stop playing Fortnite long enough to focus on “The Human Body” unit for a week.
I’m just happy with all the things people think happen in schools.
And of course there is the notion that parents can teach children too. This is what we are doing with our son. If he needs to know something important, we’re teaching him.
Abstinence only sex education. Please teach these kids about contraception and how it works, comprehensive sex education has been shown to be better than abstinence alone to prevent teenage pregnancy.
That Santa gives presents to “good” children. When the rich kids get a bunch of Christmas presents and the poor kids don’t, we’re basically telling the kids that it’s because the poor kids are bad and the rich kids are good.
To push your emotions down and never cry. You will not heal until you deal with your emotions. Support them, don’t scold them.
“Stranger Danger” has some decent basics about safety, but the unfortunate truth is that we need to teach kids how to recognize if the adults in their lives are dealing with strangers. They are behaving inappropriately.
That there are ‘things for girls’ and ‘things for boys’
(like paint, toys, etc.)
My son asked me why he doesn’t have nice clothes like me. Unable to answer his question, I asked him if he wanted to dress like me. She said yes and I stitched it. He is very happy!
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